Tired of the Yelling!
Summer!!! Fun or frustrating?
At the end of the rope?
Maybe you have a child who has frequent meltdowns and you feel like you're always walking on egg shells, knowing the next explosion will happen eventually.
Or your child is arguing with you all the time, trying to control everything and everyone in the home, destroying property, displaying sneaky or dishonest behavior, yelling, name calling, disregarding the rules, being disrespectful.... the list can go on and on but the bottom line is...
YOU ARE EXHAUSTED
YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE AT THE END OF THE ROPE
Maybe you feel like I did in my toughest seasons... ALONE, ISOLATED
The struggles in my home were affecting all areas of my life including: my health, my marriage, my relationship with each of my kids and my ability to connect with friends
You are not alone.
If you're at the end of your rope here are some things to consider to get you started:
1. Talk to someone you know and trust and share what's going on. That person doesn't need to "fix" the problem, just be a listening ear. Maybe it's your spouse, or a friend, or a therapist. Find someone you can be honest with.
2. Journal. Of course journalling doesn't solve all your problems, but there are so many benefits.
3. Send me a message. I would love to set up a time to talk with you, problem solve together, and see if partnering with a parent coach would help you walk through this season with an ally at your side, helping you and your family move from SURVIVE to THRIVE.
Learning from the loons
Did you know that mom and dad loons, carry their little ones on their backs? They do this for the first several weeks to keep the chicks safe and close by. But even as the chicks are getting a bit bigger and are swimming alongside the parents, they may still climb on board for a ride when they're scared, stressed or overwhelmed.
Last summer on a run along a northern Minnesota lake, I came upon a family of loons enjoying the shallow, quiet water. I startled them as I ran past, and the two big chicks scramble onto one parent's back and they all took off to “safer water”. They only swam a little ways down the shore before the young loons were back in the water swimming and exploring. It got me thinking about parenting...
When our kids are scared, stressed or overwhelmed (even as they get older, and are past the "baby chick" phase), how can we take a lesson from the loons and partner with our kids? Can we "carry them” for a short distance, by traveling with our child through the struggle, until we reach safer water? Then, we can let them swim on their own again.
A struggling child needs our support to co-regulate, when they can't regulate by themselves.
If you could use some additional support for a season of struggle with your child, reach out to me. I would love to talk with you. Tap the "Contact me"