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Just Keep Swimming...

6/25/2024

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​“You know what it's like having five kids? Imagine you're drowning. And someone hands you a baby.”  -- Jim Gaffigan
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Can you relate? Maybe not with having 5 kids, but do you feel at times you’re barely keeping your head above water when it comes to this parenting thing? Yesterday was “Swim a Lap Day”. All of my children have been on the swim team, and I’ve seen kids swim hundreds of laps over and over and over. One night at practice, a little guy was learning to swim on his back. The coach kept telling him, “Point your feet!” He pointed them straight up to the ceiling, smiled, and hardly moved.


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Let's have some fun!

3/5/2024

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This is a busy season for a lot of us parents… but to be honest, it seems like every season can feel busy.  Perhaps your family is juggling a variety of school or club sports, there are conferences to attend, volunteer commitments, dance recitals, summer activities to plan and of course your own job and house work. 
I’ve been talking with a number of parents recently who are reflecting on how “demanding” their child feels; demanding the parents' time and attention. “Can we go somewhere?” “Can you play with me?” “Can we do something fun?”  These parents are feeling pulled in a million directions: “there is so much I have to do, why can’t my child just go play?”  Maybe you can relate, I know I can.

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Coaching not controlling

1/18/2024

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Have you ever found yourself in a season of increased conflict with your child or teenager? Are there times when it just feels like your butting heads about lots of seemingly small things, or maybe butting heads repeatedly over the same old issue that keeps coming up? 
I certainly have been there! A variety of reasons can contribute to finding ourselves in these cycles of increased conflict with our child/teen including their growing desire for independence. Sometimes it just really feels like the young person is “looking for a fight” or “trying to be difficult.” When we start to see the situation through the lens that our child is being “defiant” or “manipulative” we feel the need to act! Often, at this point, parents tend to increase their control over the situations and the child. It makes sense! We are trying to restore order, instill a respect for authority and sometimes maybe make it clear who’s the boss. 
Maybe you’re struggling with a child that refuses to come and eat dinner at dinner time, or a child that “stirs the pot” by creating some drama when she’s bored. Maybe it’s a teenager that is missing curfew or not getting done the agreed upon chores. 
Increasing our attempts to “control” our child or teenager is a losing game. We can’t really make that independently minded young person do anything. 
So what’s a parent to do? 
Time to move into coaching, not controlling.  Put on your “coaches hat” and let’s get started!

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Feeling like a “mad mom” or “explosive dad”?

12/5/2023

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You’re not alone. Every parent has moments that we look back on and wonder why we lost our cool like that. Maybe it's an afternoon where you’re feeling extra irritable or “ triggered” by your kids' normal behaviors. Maybe it's a single episode of exploding at your kid when they make a mistake and then regretting it. Sometimes we find ourselves in a longer season of coming across as the “mad mom” or “explosive dad”.
 I personally have an ongoing frustration with my oldest child who is now technically an adult, as he just celebrated his 18th birthday. For as long as he has been going to school, he has struggled with being ready to leave on time.  I know he's capable of getting up and leaving on time because this fall when his football coach made it clear that arriving on time for school was a requirement for being eligible to play in the Friday night game, he did whatever it took to hot-foot it out of the house in time. 
But now, the football season is done and that external motivator isn't there. We are back to frustrating mornings of poor time management. I've tried many approaches to help him succeed. The most recent approach has been letting him choose to be late for school and explain it to the teachers himself.  The end result was that he was late for school everyday for a week! I'm not seeing him learning from his mistakes quite yet 🫤
Today he was late again, and I became a “mad mom.” 

Can you think of your last angry parent moment? What led up to it? Usually it's a combination of factors. Something in our kids' behaviors, what they do or don't do, what they say or don't say, gets under our skin. But how resilient we are to these frustrations and our ability, in the moment, to pause and think of the response we want to have rather than reacting on our first impulse has a lot to do with how well our own basic needs are being met. 
When  we have unmet needs we are going to feel more irritable, frustrated, impatient and inflexible, just like our kids feel when they have unmet needs. 
So the next time you find yourself feeling like the “mad mom” or “explosive dad”, consider these possible unmet needs and how you can meet them to help you stay more balanced and regulated.

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Tis the season… the gift season?!

11/29/2023

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I laughed out loud when I heard a radio advertisement the week of Thanksgiving telling us that it was not “too” late to get those Christmas gifts!  Good gracious!  It wasn’t even Thanksgiving yet, why are they making us feel like we’re late to the gift buying scene? 

How are you feeling about Christmas gifts? I love to get a special gift and even more, to find a special gift for someone. But when gift giving becomes too much of the focus it makes me feel frazzled and overwhelmed.  What does your relationship with gift giving look like in your family and your extended family? Maybe an even better question is, what would you like your family’s relationship with gifts be like? ​

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