Have you ever felt like as soon as you get a handle on something in parenting...the game changes and you're back to trying to figure it out? It's a part of the parenting journey and for me, it's happened over and over again.
I remember feeling like that when my kids were little and I would finally get a grasp on nap times and bedtimes...only to have my kids grow and change and what worked before didn't seem to work again.
How about trying to motivate a kid?
*A sticker chart? Nope... those only worked for a few days, or maybe a a few weeks.
*Taking away their favorite things... hmmm, sure fire way to get a meltdown started.
*Hitting my frustration tolerance and raising my voice? No good, that leaves me and my child feeling bad.
Of course we could talk about addressing challenging behaviors...
Maybe you're finding your tools aren't working as well as they used to.
Maybe what works for your friend's kids, or your sister's kids just doesn't seem to work with your unique child.
Regardless of the age or season our kids are in, we can become more confident leaders in our homes.
Here are a few things to think about:
Do you remember the "choose your own adventure" books? You turn to page 8 if you choose to walk into the forest, or page 20 if you choose the path past the old castle...
At the end of the rope?
Maybe you have a child who has frequent meltdowns and you feel like you're always walking on egg shells, knowing the next explosion will happen eventually.
Or your child is arguing with you all the time, trying to control everything and everyone in the home, destroying property, displaying sneaky or dishonest behavior, yelling, name calling, disregarding the rules, being disrespectful.... the list can go on and on but the bottom line is...
YOU ARE EXHAUSTED
YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE AT THE END OF THE ROPE
Maybe you feel like I did in my toughest seasons... ALONE, ISOLATED
The struggles in my home were affecting all areas of my life including: my health, my marriage, my relationship with each of my kids and my ability to connect with friends
You are not alone.
If you're at the end of your rope here are some things to consider to get you started:
1. Talk to someone you know and trust and share what's going on. That person doesn't need to "fix" the problem, just be a listening ear. Maybe it's your spouse, or a friend, or a therapist. Find someone you can be honest with.
2. Journal. Of course journalling doesn't solve all your problems, but there are so many benefits.
3. Send me a message. I would love to set up a time to talk with you, problem solve together, and see if partnering with a parent coach would help you walk through this season with an ally at your side, helping you and your family move from SURVIVE to THRIVE.