Do you have a child or know a child who is quick to anger or expresses their anger in challenging ways? Raising a child who is often on the emotional edge of "losing it" can make parents and caregivers feel like they are walking on egg shells. This leads to chronic stress in the home for parents, siblings and the child struggling with their emotions.
Have you ever felt like as soon as you get a handle on something in parenting...the game changes and you're back to trying to figure it out? It's a part of the parenting journey and for me, it's happened over and over again.
I remember feeling like that when my kids were little and I would finally get a grasp on nap times and bedtimes...only to have my kids grow and change and what worked before didn't seem to work again.
How about trying to motivate a kid?
*A sticker chart? Nope... those only worked for a few days, or maybe a a few weeks.
*Taking away their favorite things... hmmm, sure fire way to get a meltdown started.
*Hitting my frustration tolerance and raising my voice? No good, that leaves me and my child feeling bad.
Of course we could talk about addressing challenging behaviors...
Maybe you're finding your tools aren't working as well as they used to.
Maybe what works for your friend's kids, or your sister's kids just doesn't seem to work with your unique child.
Regardless of the age or season our kids are in, we can become more confident leaders in our homes.
Here are a few things to think about:
Do you remember the "choose your own adventure" books? You turn to page 8 if you choose to walk into the forest, or page 20 if you choose the path past the old castle...