Screen struggles: probably the most universal parenting challenge I hear from parents.
The battles. The negotiations. The meltdowns when it's time to turn it off. The "I'm bored, there's nothing to do" even though their room is full of options.
If this is your house, you're not alone.
Here's What You Need to KnowScreen limits DO work. The research is clear - limiting recreational screen time to 2 hours or less for school-aged kids is important for their development.
But here's the hard part: Most kids can't self-regulate screen time.
Why? Their brains aren't wired for it yet.
The prefrontal cortex - the part of the brain responsible for self-control and regulation - isn't fully developed until their mid-20s. Add to that the fact that screens are literally designed to be addictive (hello, dopamine hits), and you've got a recipe for struggle.
Studies show 67% of children exceed recommended screen time when left to self-regulate.
​Translation: It's not your kid being "bad." It's their developing brain up against billion-dollar companies engineering apps to be irresistible.
So What Makes Screen Limits Feel So Hard?Parents tell me they struggle with:

• Actually implementing the limits consistently
• Sticking with them when kids push back
• Handling the meltdown when screen time ends
• The "I'm bored, there's nothing to do" complaints
• Guilt about their child's reaction

Sound familiar?
One Practical Tip: Set Them Up for SuccessBefore screens come out, have a plan for what happens AFTER.
Try this:
"You can have 30 minutes of screen time. When the timer goes off, we're going to [specific activity]. Let's set up what you need for that now."
Then literally set it up:

• Art supplies on the table
• Legos out and ready
• Bike and helmet by the door
• Book on their bed

Why this works:
When screen time ends and they say "I'm bored," you can say: "Your Legos are ready" or "Your art stuff is on the table."
You've removed the barrier between screen time ending and the next activity starting.
It's not perfect. But it helps.
You're not alone in the screen struggles. And you're not powerless.
Screen limits work - when you have the right tools and support to implement them.
Let me know if I can support you. 

We're wrapping up January, and I want to talk about a hope that almost every parent carries but rarely says out loud:
"I hope I can stop feeling so guilty all the time."
Guilty for losing your patience. Guilty for not doing enough. Guilty for doing too much. Guilty for yelling. Guilty for the screen time. Guilty for not being the parent you thought you'd be.
The guilt is exhausting. And it's everywhere.
What if 2026 was the year you let some of that guilt go?
You're Going to Mess Up - And That's OkayHere's what I need you to hear: You're not supposed to be perfect.
You're going to lose your temper. You're going to say things you regret. You're going to have days where you're just trying to survive.
That doesn't make you a bad parent. It makes you human.
Your kids don't need perfection. They need a parent who shows up, tries their best, and when they mess up - which they will - repairs the relationship.
The Power of RepairWhen you yell, snap, or handle something badly, you have a choice:
You can sit in guilt, beating yourself up for hours (or days).
OR
You can repair.
Go back to your child and say: "I'm sorry I yelled. That wasn't okay. You didn't deserve that. I was feeling overwhelmed and I handled it badly. I'm going to work on that."
That's it. That's the magic.
Not perfection. Repair.
What Repair DoesWhen you apologize and repair:

• Your child learns that mistakes don't define us
• They see that grown-ups mess up too and that's okay
• They learn how to take responsibility for their own actions
• Your relationship gets stronger, not weaker
• The guilt loses its power

Repair is more powerful than perfection ever could be.
This Week's Practice:Next time you mess up (and you will, because we all do), try this:

1. Pause. Don't spiral into guilt. Just pause.
2. Repair. Go to your child. Apologize simply and genuinely.
3. Move forward. Don't drag the guilt around all day. You repaired. It's done.

Watch what happens when you give yourself permission to be imperfect and focus on repair instead of perfection.
Your hope for less guilt? It starts with self-compassion and the courage to say "I'm sorry."
If guilt is just one piece of a bigger struggle...
Maybe you're overwhelmed by more than guilt. Maybe you're stuck in patterns that aren't working, dealing with challenging behaviors, or feeling completely alone in this.
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Here's to less guilt and more grace in 2026. 💚
You're doing better than you think. And when you mess up? You know what to do.

Ah, summer. The season of sunshine, popsicles, sprinklers, and freedom. No early wake-ups for school. No lunch-packing marathons. Just wide-open days to enjoy our kids, make memories, and soak in all the magic. But if we’re being honest… that’s not the full picture, is it?

​Behind the smiling social media posts and sunny family outings, many parents feel something else creeping in: anxiety, overwhelm, and dread. Here’s what summer really looks like for many caregivers:

• Constant sibling arguments that sound like a broken record
• Endless snack requests (didn’t they just eat?)
• A complete lack of routine that leads to dysregulated kids
• Screen time guilt, activity planning pressure, and sensory overload
• The crushing weight of being “fun parent,” referee, chef, chauffeur, and lifeguard—all at once
  
  

Sound familiar? If you're already feeling anxious about the unstructured days ahead—or guilty for not looking forward to every moment—please hear this: You are not alone. You are not doing anything wrong. And you are not a bad parent for feeling this way.

Summer removes structure, and for many kids (and adults), that predictability is what helps regulate emotions and behavior. So yes—challenging behaviors often increase. Yes—siblings get on each other’s nerves. Yes—you will hear the words “I’m bored” 300 times in a single afternoon.

And while summer can be fun, it can also be exhausting. Especially when you're carrying the emotional load for everyone in your home. So what can you do?

Take a Pause—On Purpose
You don’t need a weekend away or a big “self-care” plan. Start small. Take one mindful pause each day. Ask yourself: What is one thing I can do today that fills my cup, even a little bit?
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• Sit on the porch with your coffee before anyone wakes up
• Take 10 deep breaths in the bathroom with the door locked
• Say yes to help when it’s offered—or ask for it
• Put on music that lifts your moodText a friend who gets it
• Lower the bar on what “good parenting” looks like today
  
  

You can’t pour from an empty cup. And summer has a way of draining it fast.
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Give Yourself Permission…

• To say no to extra playdates
• To prioritize connection over productivity
• To let go of perfect routines
• To not be the entertainer, every single minute
• To create tiny pockets of joy that are just for you
  
  

Summer doesn’t have to be perfect. It just needs to be real. So if your days look messy, loud, or full of emotion—that’s okay. You’re showing up. You’re loving your kids. You’re doing your best. That’s more than enough.