Parenting is no 9-5 gig! When we dreamed of starting our families, we knew it would be amazing, challenging, rewarding and tough!
When the parenting seasons are really tough, parents are at risk of feelings of guilt and burnout. This parenting job doesn't come with paid vacation, or "off duty" hours. If you're struggling with feelings of parenting guilt: "Nothing I do is enough" "I'm messing everything up" "I don't have the time I need for my kids" "Everyone has this figured out better than I do" Or Parental Burnout "I don't know how long I can keep doing this." "I love my kids, but I don't want to be around them." "Enough already, I just feel like escaping." Check out this one hour recorded webinar on Persevering through Caregiver Guilt and Burnout https://livestouchedcoaching.podia.com/persevering-through-caregiver-guilt-and-burnout The recorded webinar takes an empathetic look at parenting guilt and burnout and equips you with practical strategies to help you persevere and regain balance and joy in your parenting experience. This webinar is for any parent or caregiver feeling guilty or burnt out. *Adoptive and foster parents are at high risk of burnout, as are parents of kids struggling with mental health or are neurodiverse. If you or someone you know could use support please reach out. Bonus: The recorded webinar comes with discounts on all the other products and parenting tools and courses available from Lives Touched, including the Family Healing and Growth Course Reach out if you could use support on your journey. livestouchedcoaching@gmail.com Sincerely, Dana
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One of my parenting goals for 2023 is to be mindful of changing my job title from "Mom the Manager" to "Mom the Consultant" for my oldest child. At 17 years old and a junior in high-school, the reality that my son is almost legally an adult is hitting me.
My son deals with ADHD (and is very open with sharing that with others). As a result of weaknesses in certain executive functioning skills, over the years I've become accustomed to operating sort of like his "manager". He struggled with time management, so I helped keep him on track. He forgot things, so I doubled checked on them and reminded him. He got distracted easily, so I adjusted things to help with attention. He procrastinated on big projects, so I helped him break them down. and so on, and so on... All of these things had their time and place. But now, his skills are improving. His time management, active memory, attention and task initiation are getting better. I need to adjust my role from being his "manager", the one who makes sure it all gets done right, and on time... to being there as a "consultant". As a consultant I can still be present for him, but I also need to step back and allow him to take full ownership. Maybe that sounds easy to you, but it's taking lots of mindfulness for me to change roles. Of course, it's easy when I think things are going well, and he's "managing" effectively. It's much much harder when I feel like his use (or misuse) of time is leading towards unpleasant results for him. If you have an older child, and feel like you might want to move into the role of "consultant", rather than "manager" here are a few things that are helping me. |
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