Quick Ways to Rebuild Connection After a Tough Day

​We all have tough days—those moments when the stress of work, errands, and life spills over, leaving little room for meaningful connection with our kids. But here’s the good news: reconnecting doesn’t have to take hours. Just a few intentional minutes can make all the difference.

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​Here are 5 simple ways to rebuild that bond:

1. Create a "High-Low" Ritual
   At dinner or bedtime, ask: “What was the best part of your day? What was the toughest part?” Share your answers too. This helps kids feel heard and valued.
2. Hug It Out
   Physical touch is powerful. Place your hand on the back of their neck and count to 30. A long hug, combined with skin-on-skin (SOS) will help with regulation and bring you both back to calm.
3. Play Their Way
   Let your child lead a quick game or activity they love. Even 10 minutes of Lego, a card game, or dancing in the living room can reset the mood.
4. Give a Compliment
   Notice something specific they did that day and praise it. For example, “I saw how you helped your sister with her homework—that was so kind of you;" or "Great job remembering to clear your dishes after breakfast! That was a huge help to me and our family."
5. End on a Positive Note
   At bedtime, share one thing you love about them. It’s a small gesture that leaves a big impression.
   
   

It’s okay to acknowledge your own tough day. We're all human and tough days are a part of life. Saying, “I had a hard day, but spending time with you makes it better,” models emotional honesty and shows your kids they’re a priority. Even after the hardest days, connection is always possible. Start small, and watch the difference it makes. 

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