Which Challenge will you Choose?

Parenting is a journey filled with highs and lows, and sometimes, small shifts in our daily habits can create the biggest impact. This month, I invite you to take on these five simple, achievable challenges designed to build connection, patience, and joy in your home. Each challenge is meant to be realistic and doable, even on busy days. Try them out and see what works best for your family!

Connection Challenge
Goal: Spend 10 minutes of focused, uninterrupted time daily with each child. (If 10 minutes feels like a lot, start with 5. The goal is quality, not quantity!)

Kids crave our attention, but in the chaos of daily life, it’s easy to let distractions take over. These 10 minutes can strengthen your bond and help your child feel seen, heard, and valued. Put your phone away, and be fully present. Let your child choose the activity, like reading, chatting, playing, or snuggling.
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Patience Challenge
Goal: Pause and take a deep breath before responding in a frustrating moment.

When we react quickly out of frustration, we often say things we don’t mean or respond in ways we later regret. Taking a breath helps us regulate our emotions and respond thoughtfully. There are lots of breathing techniques out there. Here are a couple of examples:

1. Yo-Yo Breathing: Inhale when the yo-yo (your hand) comes up, and exhale when the yo-yo (your hand) goes down. Repeat.
2. Starfish Breathing: Inhale and open your hand wide (so it looks like a starfish), then exhale as your hand closes into a fist. Repeat.
3. Triangle Breathing: Inhale deeply for three seconds, exhale for three, and hold for three. Repeat.

If you do lose your patience, repair it with a simple “I got frustrated, but I love you. Let’s try that again.”

Listening Challenge
Goal: Ask your child one open-ended question daily and really listen to their response. (If your child isn’t talkative, start by sharing something about your own day first.)

Kids (especially older ones) will open up more when they feel truly heard. This builds trust and keeps communication open. Try asking some questions, like:

1. “What was the best part of your day?”
2. “What’s something you’ve been thinking about lately?”
3. “If you could change one thing about today, what would it be?”
   
   

Gratitude Challenge
Goal: End each day by sharing one thing you appreciate about your child.

When kids feel valued, they develop confidence and security. This also shifts our focus toward the positives in parenting. Try to be specific. Here are some examples to get you started: 

1. “I loved how you helped your sibling today.”
2. “You worked really hard on your homework—I’m proud of you.”
3. “You made me smile when you told that funny joke!”

Sometimes this can be really challenging as a parent, especially if we’ve had a rough day, rough week, or even a rough month with our kids, but doing this can help begin to shift the way we think over time. If this is where you’re at, that’s okay. Maybe it’s overwhelming to think about sharing them aloud. If your child can read, try writing them on a post-it and hanging them on the mirror or by their bed where they’ll see it. Another idea would be to keep a running list in a notebook that you can read to your child once during the week when there aren’t big meltdowns happening. Then begin to challenge yourself to share 2 times a week or 4 times a week. If you are really struggling, please reach out; I would be honored to talk through your situation.

Play Challenge
Goal: Join your child’s play without leading, correcting, or teaching. Set a timer for 10–15 minutes if you struggle with play. Even a short time makes a big impact.
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Play is how kids connect with the world. When we enter their world without an agenda, it strengthens our bond and helps them feel truly seen. Let your child pick the activity—Legos, dolls, pretend play, puzzles, or sports. Follow their lead!  

Parenting isn’t about being perfect—it’s about showing up with love, patience, and intention. Try one (or all!) of these challenges this month, and see what happens! I’d love to hear your experience—let me know which one resonated most with you. You’ve got this!

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